I know I’m not alone in insisting that everything’s okay, even when I’m really struggling sometimes.
We brush off the people we care about by insisting that we’re “fine” when we’re really not, but we shouldn’t have to pretend! Instead of insisting that everything’s hunky-dory, here are some things to say when someone notices that you’re having a hard time and asks how you’re getting on.
1. “I’m struggling a bit right now.”
You don’t have to go into details here, but this is an honest response that lets the person know that you’re not feeling 100% right now. Everyone struggles occasionally, and it might feel good to get it off your chest.
2. “Actually, I could use some support.”
Source: Unsplash Sometimes, it’s okay to ask for help. If you’re talking to a close friend or family member, letting them know that you could use some support or even help with a particular problem could be the first step in actually solving the issue(s) you’re facing.
3. “I’m having a tough day.”
Source: Unsplash It’s simple and direct and lets people know you’re not at your best, without making it sound like a long-term issue. Everyone has bad days, so the other person is sure to empathise here. They may also either ask if they can help in any way or know to give you space if you need it.
4. “I’m not feeling my best at the moment.”
Source: Unsplash This is honest without being alarmist. Maybe you literally are just having a bad day because your washing machine is on the blink or the Tube was too crowded this morning. This lets people know you’re in a mood, but that it’s not a serious issue.
5. “I’ve been better, to be honest.”
Source: Unsplash A bit of honesty can go a long way. Here, you’re admitting that you’re struggling a bit, but also making it clear that you’re not necessarily looking to dump your problems on anyone. However, if they follow up by asking what’s wrong, it’s up to you whether or not you want to share.
6. “I’m dealing with some stuff, but I’ll get through it.”
Source: Unsplash This shows that you’re still optimistic and confident in your ability to get through whatever’s going on right now, while still admitting that it’s not easy and you’re struggling a little bit. Again, this is a good one to use if you don’t necessarily want to get into particulars, but you don’t want to lie about how you’re feeling.
7. “I’m a bit overwhelmed right now.”
Source: Unsplash Sometimes, life can feel like too much, and I feel like most people can relate to that overwhelming feeling that sometimes comes over all of us. Saying this out loud can magically lift a weight off your shoulders, oddly enough.
8. “I’m not great, but I’m hanging in there.”
Source: Unsplash Being honest about the hard time you’re having is one thing, but it’s less worrisome to the people who care about you when you add something positive to the end. That’s not to say they still can’t offer to help, but this lets people know you’ve got it.
9. “I’m going through a rough patch.”
Source: Unsplash Sometimes, not being “fine” doesn’t mean there’s some major issue in your life. Sometimes things are just a bit intense for the moment, but you’re sure it’ll pass in the coming days or weeks. This is a great thing to say when that’s the case.
10. “I’m feeling a bit down today.”
Sometimes, it’s just not your day. This is a great way to admit to feeling low without making it seem like a major issue. If you want to talk about it, the other person will probably be all ears.
11. “I’ve got a lot on my mind right now.”
Source: Unsplash This is a good way to express that you’re preoccupied or stressed without going into the details if you’re not ready to share. It’s also an indirect way of asking for space to process your thoughts and feelings, which can be helpful.
12. “I’m not okay, but I will be.”
This response is beautifully honest. It admits to current struggles while expressing hope for the future. It’s clear you’re incredibly strong and know you’ll come out of this better than ever, and that’s inspiring.
13. “I’m struggling to keep it together today.”
Some days are harder than others. If this is one of them, be blunt about it. Everyone has days when they’re on edge and feel like they’re about five seconds away from losing it, so there’s no shame in admitting it.
14. “I could really use a friend right now.”
When you need support, it’s okay to ask for it. If you’re talking to a friend, this is their cue to offer you some much-needed support and comfort, and maybe even some advice, if that’s what you need.
15. “I’m feeling pretty low, actually.”
This honest response allows you to express your true feelings. The “actually” at the end emphasizes the contrast with the expected “I’m fine” response.
16. “I’m not in a great place, but I appreciate you asking.”
Source: Unsplash You may not want to discuss what’s happening, but you do want to let the other person know how much you appreciate them bothering to ask. It’s incredibly thoughtful and shows that they care about you, and that’s heart-warming.
