Everyone says or does things sometimes that makes a situation a bit awkward — we’re only human.
But sometimes, without realising it, certain habits can make people feel seriously uncomfortable. Whether it’s a nervous quirk or just a lack of awareness, these little behaviours can leave everyone around you squirming. Here are some things you might be doing that could be pretty off-putting—and how to laugh it off if you recognise yourself in any of these!
1. Standing too close to people when you talk
Personal space is sacred, and everyone’s bubble is a little different. If you’re a close-talker, people might subtly step back (and back, and back) to regain some room. A good rule of thumb? If you can feel their breath—or they look like they’re backing into a wall—you’re probably too close.
2. Oversharing way too soon
Telling a new colleague about your recent breakup or your cat’s medical history within five minutes of meeting might feel cathartic, but it can leave them searching for an escape route. Save the heavy stuff for when you know each other better—or at least after they’ve had their coffee.
3. Not breaking eye contact… ever
Eye contact is great—it shows you’re engaged. But when you lock eyes without blinking, it goes from friendly to “Are they trying to hypnotise me?” Break it up now and then with a glance away or a smile to make it less intense. People will thank you for it.
4. Bringing up controversial topics out of nowhere
“How about that politics, eh?” might not be the icebreaker you think it is. Diving straight into divisive subjects can turn a light chat into a tension-filled stand-off. Stick to neutral topics like the weather or mutual interests unless you’re sure the vibe is right.
5. Interrupting constantly
Cutting people off mid-sentence might feel like enthusiasm, but it can leave them feeling steamrolled. Even if you’re excited to share your thoughts, take a beat and let them finish. A little patience goes a long way in making conversations comfortable.
6. Asking overly personal questions
“So, how much do you make?” or “When are you having kids?” might seem harmless to you, but these questions often land with a thud. If you wouldn’t want to answer it yourself, it’s probably best to keep it to yourself—or find a gentler way to ask.
7. Laughing at the wrong moments
Sometimes nerves or an awkward silence can trigger laughter at, well, not-so-funny times. Like during someone’s serious story or heartfelt confession. If this happens, a quick “I don’t know why I laughed, I’m sorry!” can help ease the awkwardness.
8. Overusing physical contact
A pat on the back or a handshake is one thing, but constant touching—like lingering arm grabs or frequent shoulder squeezes—can feel intrusive. Unless you’re close with someone and know they’re okay with it, keep the physical gestures minimal and situational.
9. Replying with one-word answers
Conversations can fizzle fast if all you’re offering is “Yeah,” “No,” or “Okay.” It can leave the other person feeling like they’re pulling teeth just to keep the chat going. Even a simple follow-up like, “How about you?” can make a big difference in keeping things flowing.
10. Showing up uninvited or unannounced
Surprise visits might feel spontaneous and fun to you, but to everyone else, it might feel like an ambush. Give a quick ring or text to make sure they’re up for company—and not in their pyjamas binge-watching a guilty pleasure show.
11. Sharing way too many “fun facts”
Dropping random trivia into every conversation might make you feel clever, but it can overwhelm people. If someone’s eyes glaze over as you explain the life cycle of a jellyfish for the third time, it’s probably time to pull back on the fact-sharing.
12. Ignoring social cues to wrap up a conversation
When someone starts glancing at their phone, yawning, or backing toward the door, it’s usually a sign they’re ready to end the chat. Pushing past these cues can make things uncomfortable fast. Pay attention, and know when it’s time to wrap it up with a friendly, “I’ll let you go!”
13. Always bringing the conversation back to yourself
“That’s cool, but here’s what happened to me…” can turn a two-way conversation into a monologue. People like to feel heard, so try to ask follow-up questions and show genuine interest in what they’re saying. You’ll make them feel more valued—and avoid looking self-centred.
14. Overselling your opinions as absolute facts
Insisting you’re right about everything, from the best way to make tea to which film is superior, can come off as arrogant. Sharing your perspective is great, but leaving room for other people to have their own makes the conversation more enjoyable for everyone.
15. Talking too loudly in quiet settings
Whether you’re at a café or a library, being the loudest voice in the room can make people cringe. Not everyone needs to hear your hot take on last night’s game or your lunch order. Take a moment to match your volume to the space—you’ll blend in much better.
16. Giving unsolicited advice
Sometimes people just want to vent, not hear solutions. Jumping in with, “You know what you should do?” can feel like you’re dismissing their experience. Unless they specifically ask, try offering support with a simple, “That sounds tough—do you want help figuring it out?”
17. Refusing to admit when you’re wrong
Digging your heels in when you’re clearly in the wrong can make things tense fast. A quick “You’re right, my bad” can defuse the situation and make you more approachable. Stubbornness might feel like saving face, but it often just creates awkwardness.
