Marriage doesn’t have to be all about bills, chores, and responsibilities (and it definitely shouldn’t be, unless you want to end up miserable).
It’s normal for things to become a bit mundane and routine the longer you’re together, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still be having a good time together. Here are some ways to inject more fun and excitement into your relationship, reigniting the spark between yourself and your partner and strengthening your bond.
1. Have a regular date night.
Set aside time each week or fortnight for just the two of you. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive — the key is to focus on each other without distractions. Try new restaurants, go for walks, or even have a picnic in your living room. The important thing is to make it a priority and stick to it.
2. Learn something new together.
Pick up a hobby or skill that neither of you knows. It could be anything from cooking exotic cuisines to learning a new language. Sharing the experience of being beginners can be both humbling and hilarious, creating new memories and inside jokes.
3. Plan surprise mini-adventures.
Take turns planning surprise outings for each other. It could be as simple as a trip to a nearby town you’ve never explored or as elaborate as a weekend getaway. The element of surprise adds excitement and shows thoughtfulness.
4. Have a technology-free evening.
Once a week, turn off all screens and spend quality time together. Play board games, have deep conversations, or simply enjoy each other’s company without digital distractions. You might be surprised at how refreshing it feels.
5. Create a bucket list together.
Sit down and brainstorm things you both want to do, places you want to visit, or experiences you want to have. Then start ticking them off, one by one. Having shared goals and dreams can bring you closer and give you things to look forward to together.
6. Have a regular ‘silly time’.
Designate a time when you can be completely goofy together. Dance like no one’s watching, have a pillow fight, or tell terrible jokes. Letting loose and embracing your inner child can be incredibly bonding and stress-relieving.
7. Start a two-person book club.
Choose a book to read together and set aside time to discuss it. This can lead to interesting conversations and debates, helping you see new sides of each other’s personalities and perspectives.
8. Cook together.
Source: Unsplash Instead of viewing meal preparation as a chore, turn it into a fun, shared activity. Try new recipes, have theme nights, or challenge each other to create dishes from random ingredients. The kitchen can become a place of laughter and creativity.
9. Create your own traditions.
Develop quirky traditions that are unique to your relationship. It could be anything from having ice cream for dinner on the first day of summer to an annual pillow fort building competition. These shared rituals can become cherished parts of your life together.
10. Have a regular game night.
Whether it’s video games, board games, or card games, a bit of friendly competition can be a great way to have fun together. Choose games you both enjoy and maybe even create your own special rules to make it more interesting.
11. Plan theme nights at home.
Transform your living room into a different setting each week. Have a beach party, a 1920s speakeasy, or a sci-fi movie marathon. Get creative with decorations, food, and even costumes to fully immerse yourselves in the theme.
12. Write love notes to each other.
Leave surprise notes for your partner to find throughout the day. They could be sweet, funny, or even slightly cheeky. This small gesture can bring smiles and laughter to ordinary days.
13. Have a ‘yes day’.
Take turns having a day when one partner has to say yes to any reasonable request from the other. It can lead to unexpected adventures and show you new sides of each other. Just remember to keep things within agreed-upon boundaries.
14. Create art together.
You don’t have to be Picasso to enjoy creating art together. Try painting, sculpting, or even finger painting. The process can be fun and relaxing, and you’ll have a unique piece to remember the experience.
15. Have a karaoke night at home.
Let loose and sing your hearts out. You can use online karaoke videos or just sing along to your favourite tunes. Don’t worry about being in tune — it’s all about having fun and maybe sharing a few laughs at your attempts at high notes.
16. Start a friendly prank war.
Keep things light-hearted with some playful pranks on each other. Just make sure to establish ground rules to ensure it remains fun for both parties and doesn’t cross any personal boundaries.
17. Have a ‘throwback’ date.
Recreate one of your early dates or do activities you enjoyed when you first got together. It can be a sweet reminder of why you fell in love and how far you’ve come.
18. Take dance lessons together.
Whether it’s salsa, ballroom, or hip-hop, learning to dance together can be a fun way to get closer, both literally and figuratively. Plus, it’s great exercise and gives you a skill you can show off at future events.
19. Start a photography project.
Challenge each other to take a photo every day for a month based on different themes. At the end, create a slideshow or photo book of your experiences. It’s a creative way to see the world through each other’s eyes.
20. Have occasional ‘adventure days’.
Once in a while, wake up and decide to have an unplanned day of adventure. Flip a coin to make decisions, explore new areas, or try activities you’ve never done before. The spontaneity can be exhilarating and create lasting memories.
