Relationships take work, but sometimes it’s hard to know when to keep trying and when to let go.

If you’re noticing these signs in your partnership, it might be time to consider whether the relationship is truly worth fighting for. Even if you love them, and you’ve invested a lot of time and energy into your partnership, that doesn’t mean it’s meant to last.
1. You’re constantly on edge around your partner.

If you’re always watching what you say or do to avoid upsetting your partner, it’s a red flag. A healthy relationship should make you feel comfortable being yourself, not anxious about triggering a negative reaction. Being in a constant state of alertness is exhausting and unsustainable in the long run.
2. You’ve lost respect for each other.

Respect is at the heart of any good relationship. If you or your partner is constantly belittling, mocking, or dismissing each other’s opinions and feelings, it’s a sign that respect has gone. Without mutual respect, it’s nearly impossible to maintain a healthy, loving partnership.
3. You’re no longer growing together.

While it’s normal for people to have individual goals, couples should also grow together. If you’re consistently moving in different directions or your values no longer align, it might be a sign that you’ve outgrown the relationship. It’s sad, but sometimes people simply grow apart.
4. Trust has been broken beyond repair.

Trust is non-negotiable in any relationship, and once it’s shattered, it’s incredibly hard to rebuild. If there’s been infidelity, repeated lying, or other serious breaches of trust that you can’t move past, it might be time to consider whether the relationship is still viable.
5. You’re staying together just for the kids.

While the intention might be good, staying in an unhappy relationship solely for the children’s sake can do more harm than good. Kids are perceptive and can pick up on tension and unhappiness. Sometimes, two happy homes are better than one miserable one.
6. You’re consistently unhappy and unfulfilled.

Relationships have ups and downs, but if you’re feeling consistently unhappy or unfulfilled, it’s worth paying attention to. Your partnership should generally bring you joy and satisfaction. If it’s a constant source of stress or sadness, it might be time to reassess.
7. You’re always making excuses for your partner’s behaviour.

If you’re constantly justifying your partner’s actions to friends, family, or even yourself, it’s a sign that something’s not right. You shouldn’t have to repeatedly explain away bad behaviour. A healthy relationship doesn’t require constant excuses or cover-ups.
8. You’ve stopped communicating about important issues.

Communication is vital in any relationship. If you’ve reached a point where you’re avoiding discussing important issues because it always leads to arguments or nothing ever changes, it’s a sign that the relationship is stagnating. Without open, honest communication, problems can’t be resolved.
9. You’re staying out of fear or comfort rather than love.

Sometimes people stay in relationships not because they’re happy, but because they’re afraid of being alone or because it’s comfortable. If fear of the unknown or mere habit is keeping you together, rather than genuine love and affection, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.
10. Your core values are fundamentally incompatible.

While differences can make relationships interesting, fundamental incompatibilities in core values can be insurmountable. If you disagree on major life decisions like having children, religious beliefs, or lifestyle choices, and neither of you is willing to compromise, it might be a sign that the relationship isn’t sustainable long-term.
11. You’re constantly fantasising about being single or with someone else.

It’s normal to have the occasional daydream, but if you’re constantly imagining life without your partner or with someone else, it’s a sign that you’re not satisfied in your current relationship. These persistent thoughts might be your subconscious telling you it’s time to move on.
12. You’ve lost all physical intimacy.

While sex isn’t everything in a relationship, physical intimacy is important for most couples. If you’ve lost all desire for physical closeness with your partner and there’s no medical reason for it, it could be a sign that the emotional connection has faded too much.
13. You’re always hoping your partner will change.

If you’re staying in the relationship hoping your partner will fundamentally change who they are, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. People can grow and improve, but waiting for someone to become a completely different person is unrealistic and unfair to both of you.
14. You’ve experienced any form of abuse.

This is a non-negotiable point. If there’s been any form of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse in the relationship, it’s not worth fighting for. Your safety and well-being should always come first, and abuse is never acceptable under any circumstances.
15. You’re constantly criticising each other.

Constructive criticism can be helpful, but if your interactions are dominated by negative comments and put-downs, it’s a sign of a toxic dynamic. Constant criticism destroys self-esteem and creates a negative atmosphere that’s hard to overcome.
16. You’ve lost your individual identity.

While it’s great to be part of a couple, you shouldn’t lose your individual identity in the process. If you feel like you’ve given up all your personal interests, friendships, or goals for the relationship, it’s a sign of an unhealthy dynamic that’s not sustainable in the long run.
17. You’re staying together because of external pressures.

If you’re only staying together because of family expectations, societal pressure, or financial reasons, it’s worth reconsidering. A relationship should be based on mutual love and respect, not external factors. Staying for the wrong reasons will likely lead to resentment over time.
18. You’re consistently compromising your values or self-respect.

Compromise is part of any relationship, but if you’re always compromising your core values or self-respect to keep the peace, it’s a sign that the relationship is unbalanced. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice who you are at your core to make a relationship work.
19. You’re no longer supportive of each other’s goals and dreams.

In a healthy relationship, partners encourage and support each other’s aspirations. If you find that you or your partner are dismissive or unsupportive of each other’s goals, it could mean that you’re no longer invested in each other’s happiness and growth.
20. You’re staying together just to prove people wrong.

If you’re holding on to the relationship just to prove to friends, family, or even yourselves that you can make it work, it’s not a good reason to stay. A relationship should be about the connection between two people, not about proving a point to other people.
21. You feel relieved when you’re apart.

While it’s healthy to enjoy some time apart, if you consistently feel relief or happiness when you’re away from your partner, it’s a sign that something’s amiss. In a fulfilling relationship, you should generally look forward to spending time together, not dread it.