You don’t always have to have the perfect words to comfort someone who’s struggling — sometimes it’s just about being there.
That being said, it’s natural to want to offer some words of encouragement. The problem is that often times, we tend to resort to cliché phrases that are not only meaningless, but they’re definitely not very helpful either. If you do want to verbalise your care and support for someone, leave “it’ll be alright” in the dust and try some of these instead.
1. “I’m here for you.”
Sometimes, the simplest things are the most meaningful. Just telling someone you’re there for them can make them feel less alone. It’s not about offering a solution; it’s about offering your presence. Let them know you’re ready to listen, support, or even just sit in silence with them if that’s what they need.
2. “I can’t imagine how tough this must be.”
This shows empathy without pretending to have all the answers. Acknowledging that you don’t fully understand their pain, but that you recognise it’s tough, helps them feel seen. It’s validating without trying to offer empty words of reassurance. It lets them know that you understand their struggle, even if you can’t exactly feel it yourself.
3. “If you want to talk, I’m here.”
Sometimes, people don’t want advice, and they don’t want to hear that “everything will be fine.” What they really need is the space to talk without feeling pressured. Letting them know you’re available if they need to chat, but not forcing it, gives them control over the situation. It’s an open door, not a push.
4. “Take all the time you need.”
People often feel rushed when they’re struggling, as if they should “bounce back” right away. Telling them to take all the time they need gives them the freedom to process their emotions in their own time, without any pressure. It shows that you understand healing doesn’t happen on someone else’s schedule, and you’re here for the long haul.
5. “It’s okay to feel however you feel.”
When someone’s going through something tough, they often feel guilty for being upset or sad, thinking they should “snap out of it” and be more positive. Reminding them that all their feelings are valid can be incredibly relieving. It takes away the guilt and allows them to feel what they need to feel without judgment.
6. “You don’t have to go through this alone.”
Source: Unsplash This is one of those simple truths that can make a big impact. Letting someone know they’re not alone in their struggle is comforting. Life can feel overwhelming when faced with challenges, but knowing they have people around them who care can ease some of the weight. You don’t need to have all the answers, but showing up for them makes all the difference.
7. “What do you need right now?”
This one shifts the focus to them. Instead of assuming what might help, you’re offering them the chance to tell you exactly what they need. Whether it’s running errands, keeping them company, or just giving them space, letting them define what feels right for them is incredibly empowering.
8. “I wish I could take some of the weight off your shoulders.”
Sometimes, you can’t fix the problem, but this shows that you care deeply about what they’re going through. It’s a compassionate way of expressing that you wish you could do more, but you’re still there, supporting them in every way you can. It shows empathy without trying to minimise their situation.
9. “I know this is hard right now, but I believe in you.”
This can be a great way to offer encouragement while still respecting their current feelings. Acknowledge that things are tough, but by expressing your belief in them, you show that you have confidence in their ability to get through it. It’s about lifting them up without invalidating their struggles.
10. “You’ve got this, but I’ll be right here if you need me.”
This balances encouragement with support. Reminding them that they’re strong and capable is helpful, but it’s also important to show that you’re available if they need to lean on you. It’s not about brushing aside their pain; it’s about reinforcing their strength while reminding them you’re there for backup.
11. “I can’t fix this, but I’m happy to just be with you.”
Sometimes, people don’t need solutions. They don’t need things to magically get better. They just need someone to be there with them. Offering your presence, with no expectation to fix the problem, is a powerful way to show that you’re supporting them through the tough times, no matter how long it takes.
12. “What do you need right now to feel better?”
Asking this allows the person to direct their own path to healing. Sometimes people don’t even know what they need, but offering this question gives them the space to consider it. Whether it’s distraction, a hug, or someone to talk to, this shows you’re not making assumptions about what will help—they get to decide.
13. “You’re stronger than you think, but it’s okay to have a bad day.”
This acknowledges the person’s strength while also giving them permission to have vulnerable moments. It’s a gentle reminder that strength doesn’t mean having to be perfect all the time. It’s okay to fall apart now and then, and you’re still there, supporting them through it.
14. “I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”
Sometimes, the best thing you can say is simply expressing sorrow for what they’re going through. It doesn’t need to be followed by advice or solutions. Just letting them know that you’re sorry they’re in pain, and that you care, is often enough to provide comfort.
15. “Is there anything I can do to make things easier?”
Offering specific help instead of just saying “let me know if you need anything” is more likely to lead to action. This gives them the option to ask for exactly what they need, whether it’s physical help, emotional support, or just some company. It’s a way of saying you’re there in a practical way, without overwhelming them with vague offers.
