You’ve gone out with your girls to blow off some steam, but something — or someone — always seems to ruin it.
A night out should be a relaxed, fun experience, but sometimes, unwanted attention from a creepy guy can spoil the vibe. It’s not always easy to know how to handle these situations, especially if you want to stay safe while avoiding confrontation. However, you also don’t have to stand there and put up with his behaviour — you can do these things instead.
1. Trust your instincts.
If something feels off, it probably is. Your gut is often the first to pick up on subtle red flags. Don’t second-guess yourself or brush off those uneasy feelings. Trusting your instincts can help you stay alert and take action before things escalate.
2. Use clear and direct body language.
Your body language can send a strong message. Standing tall, maintaining eye contact, and keeping your distance can signal confidence and disinterest. If he approaches, don’t be afraid to turn your body away or take a step back — it sets a clear boundary without saying a word.
3. Politely but firmly say you’re not interested.
A simple “No, thank you” or “I’m not interested” can be incredibly effective. Keep your tone calm and confident. You don’t owe anyone a long explanation. If he doesn’t take the hint, repeating yourself with a firmer tone can reinforce your message.
4. Enlist your friends for support.
There’s strength in numbers. If a creepy guy won’t leave you alone, let your friends know what’s happening. They can step in, pull you away, or create a buffer. Having people who’ve got your back makes it easier to remove yourself from uncomfortable situations.
5. Pretend you’re waiting for someone.
Sometimes, a quick excuse can help. Saying, “I’m just waiting for my boyfriend/friend to come back” can deter unwanted advances. While it’s frustrating to feel like you need an excuse, this tactic can quickly defuse the situation without confrontation.
6. Move to a more public or well-lit area.
If you’re feeling uneasy, head to a place where there are more people — the bar, the dance floor, or near security staff. Being in a well-populated, brightly lit area makes it harder for someone to continue bothering you and easier for other people to step in if needed.
7. Use the “buddy system” for trips to the loo or outside.
Going to the bathroom or stepping outside with a friend adds an extra layer of security. Creepy guys are less likely to approach when you’re not alone. It’s a simple strategy, sure, but can help you feel safer and avoid awkward or uncomfortable interactions.
8. Create a non-verbal signal with your friends.
Having a subtle hand gesture or code word to let your friends know you need help can be a lifesaver. Whether it’s a simple nod or a text, your friends will know to step in or pull you away. It’s a discreet way to handle the situation without drawing attention.
9. Don’t feel obligated to be “nice.”
There’s no rule saying you have to be polite to someone who makes you uncomfortable. If a firm “no” or a direct look feels right, go with it. You’re not responsible for protecting someone’s feelings if they’re disregarding your comfort or boundaries.
10. Involve the staff or security if needed.
If someone won’t leave you alone, don’t hesitate to inform the bar or venue staff. They’re trained to handle these situations and can intervene or remove the person if necessary. Your safety and comfort are a priority, and staff are there to help.
11. Have a quick exit strategy.
Source: Unsplash Know where the exits are and have a plan if you need to leave quickly. That doesn’t mean you have to abandon your night out — just knowing you can remove yourself easily can give you peace of mind. If things get too uncomfortable, it’s okay to head home or change venues.
12. Don’t hesitate to be loud if you feel threatened.
Source: Unsplash If a creepy guy crosses the line, and you feel unsafe, being loud can draw attention and deter him. Firmly saying, “You’re making me uncomfortable” or “Stop touching me” lets people know what’s happening. It can also make the guy think twice about continuing his behaviour.
