Everyone has heard the classic ideas of what it means to “be a man”—strong, stoic, self-sufficient, and always in control.
But times are changing (thank God), and so are ideas about masculinity. Some of these traditional myths about what makes a “real man” are not only outdated but can also hold guys back from being their true selves. These are some of the most common myths about masculinity that need to do one.
1. Men should never show emotions.
The idea that men should be tough and unemotional has been around forever, but it’s simply not true. Men have the same range of emotions as anyone else, and expressing them is actually healthy. Holding everything in doesn’t make someone stronger; it just creates unnecessary stress and pressure. It’s time to give men the space to feel openly and connect with people on a deeper level.
2. Men are only providers, not nurturers.
The stereotype that men are “meant” to bring home the bacon while women handle the nurturing is outdated. Many men are natural caregivers, whether it’s with their children, partners, friends, or even pets. Being caring and supportive doesn’t make someone any less masculine—in fact, it shows a lot of strength and character.
3. Physical strength defines masculinity.
Sure, strength is great, but being a man doesn’t mean you have to be able to lift a car or have superhero muscles. Physical abilities don’t define a person’s worth or character. True strength comes in many forms, including mental and emotional resilience. Being strong for other people can look a lot different from being physically “strong.”
4. Men should “man up” and solve everything alone.
There’s this idea that men should handle all their problems solo, without asking for help. But sometimes, asking for support is the wisest and bravest thing you can do. Being able to lean on friends, family, or even a professional can make a tough time a lot easier. Real strength isn’t about doing everything on your own; it’s about knowing when you could use a hand.
5. Men aren’t “supposed” to cry.
For too long, crying has been seen as “unmanly.” But tears are a natural response to intense emotions, and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. Men should feel free to express their feelings without fear of judgment. A good cry can actually be a huge relief and help people process tough emotions.
6. Men should always have it all together.
Another myth is that men are supposed to be in control and have everything figured out all the time. Life is messy, and nobody—man or woman—has all the answers. It’s okay to admit when things are tough or confusing. Vulnerability doesn’t make anyone less of a man; it makes them human.
7. Men are naturally more aggressive.
The stereotype that men are naturally more aggressive or assertive is limiting. Not all men are wired this way, and many prefer peace, quiet, and compromise. Aggression doesn’t define masculinity, and assuming it does can pressure men to act in ways that aren’t true to who they are.
8. Men shouldn’t talk about their mental health.
For too long, men have been told to “tough it out” when it comes to mental health struggles. But mental health is just as important as physical health, and opening up about it can make a huge difference. Breaking the silence on mental health can lead to better understanding, connection, and support for everyone involved.
9. Men don’t belong in “feminine” jobs or hobbies.
Traditional ideas about masculinity suggest that men should avoid anything deemed “feminine,” like cooking, art, or caregiving. But passion has no gender, and men should feel free to explore whatever interests they have. Men who enjoy cooking, teaching, or creating aren’t less masculine—they’re just being true to themselves.
10. Men have to be financially successful to be respected.
The idea that men’s worth is tied to their bank account is both stressful and misleading. Success looks different for everyone, and being a good friend, partner, or family member has nothing to do with money. Respect comes from character, integrity, and kindness, not financial status.
11. Men should never ask for directions or admit they’re lost.
This is one of those classic stereotypes that, while funny, can put pressure on men to always “know” what they’re doing. Asking for directions (literal or metaphorical) doesn’t mean someone is weak or incapable. In fact, being able to admit when you need help shows confidence and maturity.
12. Men don’t need close friendships.
The idea that men can “go it alone” without close friends or emotional connections is a damaging myth. Friendships are essential for everyone, providing support, laughter, and companionship. Encouraging men to value their friendships can lead to happier, healthier lives for everyone.
13. Men aren’t interested in deep conversations.
There’s this myth that men only want to talk about surface-level things, but many men crave meaningful, deep conversations. Men enjoy talking about life, dreams, fears, and goals just as much as anyone else. Allowing space for these conversations helps build stronger connections and understanding.
14. Men have to “keep their cool” no matter what.
This myth suggests that men should always be calm and composed, even when they’re feeling anything but. Bottling up emotions can lead to frustration and stress over time. Men should feel comfortable expressing their emotions, whether they’re feeling frustrated, hurt, or even scared.
15. Men are supposed to be naturally handy.
Not every man is born with the skills to fix a car, build a shelf, or handle DIY projects, and that’s okay! Practical skills don’t define masculinity, and there’s no shame in not being the world’s greatest handyman. Everyone has their strengths, and it’s fine if they don’t involve a toolbox.
16. Men are supposed to take risks and be adventurous.
Society often tells men that being masculine means being daring, adventurous, or always taking risks. But plenty of men find joy in stability and predictability, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Masculinity isn’t about living on the edge; it’s about living in a way that feels true to who you are.
