Stop Overlooking These Toxic Behaviours — They’re Poisoning Your Life

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It’s easy to excuse or write-off bad behaviours, especially when they’re “not that bad” or come from people close to you.

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However, ignoring the toxic things the people in your life do not only sells yourself short, but it can lead to some serious mental and emotional health issues if you’re not careful. If you’ve been giving a free pass to these red flag behaviours, whether from a friend, partner, family member, or colleague, enough is enough. It’s time to stand up for yourself and reclaim your peace in the process.

1. Constant criticism disguised as “helpful advice”

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Someone who frequently points out your flaws or shortcomings under the guise of being helpful is not being constructive—they’re destroying your confidence. Genuine support builds you up, while toxic criticism chips away at your self-worth. Set boundaries by saying, “I appreciate your input, but I prefer to focus on solutions.”

2. Guilt-tripping to get their way

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Guilt-tripping is a manipulative tactic that shifts blame onto you to achieve their goals. Whether it’s a friend saying, “I guess you don’t care about me,” or a family member making you feel bad for prioritising yourself, this behaviour is emotionally draining. Recognise it for what it is and respond firmly: “I care, but I also need to do what’s right for me.”

3. Passive-aggressive communication

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Snarky comments, backhanded compliments, or “joking” digs are forms of passive aggression that create an atmosphere of tension. This often masks unresolved conflict or resentment. Address it by calling out the pattern gently but directly: “It feels like there’s something on your mind. Let’s talk about it openly.”

4. Never taking accountability

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People who can’t own up to their mistakes often deflect blame onto other people, creating unnecessary drama and frustration. Over time, doing this undermines trust. When you notice it happening, encourage accountability by saying, “We all make mistakes—it’s okay to admit them and work on a solution together.”

5. Overstepping boundaries

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Whether it’s prying into your personal life, showing up uninvited, or ignoring your requests, boundary violations are toxic. Respecting boundaries is key to healthy relationships. Reinforce yours by stating them clearly: “I’ve set this boundary because it’s important for my well-being. I need you to respect it.”

6. Using silence as punishment

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The silent treatment is a manipulative way to avoid communication and make you feel powerless. It creates confusion and insecurity, leaving you guessing what went wrong. Address it by calmly saying, “I notice you’ve gone quiet. Let’s talk about what’s bothering you when you’re ready.”

7. Controlling behaviour masked as “caring”

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Constantly monitoring where you are, who you’re with, or how you spend your time under the pretence of “caring” is not love—it’s control. Healthy relationships are built on trust, not surveillance. Push back gently by affirming your independence: “I appreciate your concern, but I need space to make my own choices.”

8. Always playing the victim

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People who frame themselves as perpetual victims often avoid responsibility for their actions, making you feel guilty for situations they’ve created. It can (and usually does!) drain your energy and empathy. Acknowledge their feelings but set limits: “I understand this is hard for you, but I can’t solve this for you.”

9. Making everything a competition

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Turning every achievement or struggle into a comparison is toxic and invalidates your experiences. Someone who constantly competes with you likely struggles with insecurity. Respond by shifting the focus: “This isn’t about who’s better; it’s about supporting each other.”

10. Dismissing your feelings as “overreacting”

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Minimising your emotions by calling you “too sensitive” or saying, “It’s not a big deal,” undermines your ability to express yourself. Your feelings are valid, and dismissing them is a way of silencing you. Stand firm by saying, “This matters to me, and I’d like to talk about it seriously.”

11. Gaslighting to make you doubt yourself

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Gaslighting involves manipulating you into questioning your perception of reality, often with phrases like, “You’re imagining things,” or, “That never happened.” It’s an emotionally abusive tactic and deeply damaging. Trust your instincts and get the support you need from friends or even a therapist if you feel this is happening.

12. Taking advantage of your kindness

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People who repeatedly exploit your generosity without giving anything in return are toxic to your well-being. This can leave you feeling used and unappreciated. Set limits by learning to say no: “I can’t help this time, but I hope you can figure it out.”

13. Constant drama and chaos

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Someone who thrives on creating drama and conflict brings unnecessary stress into your life. They tend to do this because of the inability to manage their emotions. Protect your peace by disengaging from their theatrics and keeping interactions calm and neutral.

14. Refusing to celebrate your successes

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A toxic person may downplay or ignore your accomplishments, making you feel small. True friends and partners celebrate your wins, big or small. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and proudly acknowledge your achievements without jealousy or negativity.

15. Using threats to manipulate you

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Threatening to leave, withhold affection, or cause harm to get their way is emotional manipulation and never acceptable. This behaviour creates fear and instability in relationships. Respond by firmly setting boundaries and seeking help if the threats escalate.