Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and mutual understanding — everyone knows that.
However, achieving and maintaining those things takes deliberate action, and so decent men often strive to create positive partnerships by avoiding certain behaviours. Men who truly value their relationships show it by avoiding these destructive behaviours at all costs. (And for the record, decent women avoid them too!)
1. They don’t lie or keep secrets.
Honesty forms the foundation of any strong relationship, and decent men understand the importance of truthfulness and transparency. They avoid lying or keeping major secrets from their partners because they know just how much this can destroy trust over time. Instead, they prioritise open and honest communication, even when it’s tough.
2. They refrain from physical or emotional abuse.
Respect for their partner’s physical and emotional well-being is paramount. Decent men never resort to physical violence or emotional manipulation. They understand that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and support, not fear or control. They work on managing their emotions in healthier ways.
3. They don’t cheat or betray trust.
Loyalty is a key trait of decent men in relationships. They avoid any form of infidelity, whether physical or emotional. This includes respecting agreed-upon boundaries and not engaging in behaviours that could be considered betrayal. They value the trust their partner places in them and work to maintain it.
4. They don’t dismiss their partner’s feelings.
Empathy and emotional validation are important in any relationship. Decent men take their partner’s feelings seriously, even if they don’t always understand or agree. They avoid dismissing or belittling their partner’s emotions. Instead, they listen actively and try to offer support and understanding.
5. They don’t make major decisions unilaterally.
Partnership involves shared decision-making. Decent men avoid making significant decisions that affect both partners without consultation. They recognise the importance of considering their partner’s input and reaching mutually agreeable solutions. This approach creates a sense of teamwork and respect in the relationship.
6. They don’t neglect personal hygiene and grooming.
Taking care of oneself is a sign of self-respect and consideration for one’s partner. Decent men maintain good personal hygiene and grooming habits. They understand that neglecting these aspects can affect both physical intimacy and overall attraction in a relationship. It’s about showing that you value yourself and your partner.
7. They don’t avoid responsibility.
Taking responsibility for one’s actions and commitments is crucial in a relationship. Decent men don’t shy away from their duties or blame other people for their mistakes. They own up to their actions, apologise when necessary, and actively participate in the responsibilities of the relationship and household.
8. They don’t criticise their partner publicly.
Respect extends to how partners treat each other in public. Decent men avoid criticising or embarrassing their partners in front of other people. They understand the importance of presenting a united front and addressing any issues privately. Doing so helps maintain trust and mutual respect in the relationship.
9. They don’t ignore their partner’s boundaries.
Respecting personal boundaries is essential in any healthy relationship. Decent men pay attention to and honour their partner’s boundaries, whether they’re physical, emotional, or related to privacy. They understand that boundaries are not obstacles, but important aspects of individual identity and comfort within the relationship.
10. They don’t neglect emotional intimacy.
Emotional connection is as important as physical intimacy. Decent men make efforts to maintain emotional closeness with their partners. They engage in meaningful conversations, share their feelings, and show interest in their partner’s inner world. It helps keep the relationship strong and fulfilling beyond just physical attraction.
11. They don’t take their partner for granted.
Appreciation is key to maintaining a positive relationship. Decent men avoid falling into the trap of taking their partner’s efforts or presence for granted. They regularly express gratitude and acknowledge their partner’s contributions to the relationship. Showing ongoing appreciation helps keep the relationship fresh and valued.
12. They don’t avoid difficult conversations.
Open communication, even about challenging topics, is crucial. Decent men don’t shy away from necessary but difficult conversations. They approach these discussions with honesty, empathy, and a willingness to listen. This helps address issues before they become major problems and strengthens the overall communication in the relationship.
13. They don’t disrespect their partner’s career or interests.
Supporting a partner’s individual pursuits is important in a healthy relationship. Decent men show respect for their partner’s career choices and personal interests. They avoid belittling or dismissing these important aspects of their partner’s life. Instead, they offer encouragement and try to understand why these things matter to their partner.
14. They don’t maintain inappropriate relationships.
Respecting the primary relationship means being mindful of other connections. Decent men avoid maintaining relationships that could be seen as inappropriate or threatening to their partner. That doesn’t mean abandoning friendships, but rather ensuring all relationships are transparent and respectful of the primary partnership.
15. They don’t avoid self-improvement.
Personal growth is an ongoing process that benefits both the individual and the relationship. Decent men don’t shy away from working on themselves. They remain open to feedback, acknowledge areas for improvement, and make efforts to grow as individuals. The commitment to self-improvement contributes to the overall health and progress of the relationship.
